25 June 2024
Enjoying Time Together on Family Days
Mokhi is a teacher and Miz is an IT consultant. They bring their children Zachariah (13) and Sulaiman (11) to the British Library on its programmed family days.
Mokhi
I like to get the kids out and about and go to places that have activities. Obviously, if venues are welcoming of children with special needs, all the better. We first visited the Library a few years ago, just after lockdown. We found out that it was holding events through a charity called Sense, which we know about because of Zachariah’s multi-sensory needs – he has vision and hearing impairments.
I didn’t realise before that you could go to the Library and do family activities. I thought you would only go if you needed to study or wanted access to books. It’s so much more than that – it’s almost like a museum or a gallery, and it’s very inclusive of families and children. The spaces are for everyone, not just for those who are studying or researching, which is lovely. I regularly check on the website to see what’s happening, because they always have something going on and a lot of things are free for families, which I think is really good.
I always put the Library’s workshops in the diary
We come from North London, so we just make a day of it. We go somewhere nice for lunch, look around London if we want to, and then come home. The location is convenient, right next to King’s Cross station.
I always make an effort to put the Library’s workshops and activities in the diary, because the boys like to have structure. Zachariah needs to know what he’s going to do and what the timings will be, since he has autism and ADHD. So when you tell him something’s going to be finished by three, he’s literally checking the phone.
A couple of times, the Library has had this amazing storyteller who sings and uses props and does acting, and Zachariah loves it. At another event, the kids saw a real-life illustrator who showed them the tricks of the trade. There was an Open Day during the school holidays with professors and students from different universities doing logic games. They were inviting youngsters to try to complete the challenges. Sulaiman, in particular, enjoyed it.
I could live in the Library
There’s a restaurant at the Library, and a cafe. The toilets are nice and spacious, which is important for people with access needs. There are ramps and lifts, too. Whenever we go to any events, I always like to talk to other parents. I think it’s good for Zachariah and Sulaiman to meet other families. No two families are the same.
Libraries are an amazing free resource: they belong to all of us. I think it’s a shame that so many of our local libraries have closed down, especially since lockdown. When our boys were babies, I used to go to my local library every week. They used to have baby rhyme time, with storytelling and songs. It meant that I could get out of the house and meet other parents.
I could live in the Library. I love books. I think they just open you up to a new world.
Miz
I especially enjoyed the storytelling event that we went to at the Library, and a talk with an author and illustrator about her book. It was interesting to find out how she developed her story, and it showed the kids how a book is put together. But you’re not just sitting there and listening; in between sessions, we got up and did activities.
They have exhibitions: we got tickets to the one about Paddington. We went to an open day where you could try different things at stalls throughout the building. One thing we learned is that the Library building was designed by an architect who wanted it to look like a ship.
You can spend a whole day at the Library
Lots of families from different backgrounds can come to the Library, and all these events are put on that they don’t have to pay for. This, for me, is the key thing about libraries: they’re a communal, safe place for people to go. At the library near our house, I once saw a man who didn’t have English as his first language come in with an application that needed to be filled in, and the member of staff at the counter took the time to help him with it. Youngsters use the computers to do their homework.
You can spend a whole day at the Library and time will just fly by. There’s that amazing glass section with all the old books – I love that.
Zachariah
I was a bit nervous about going to the Library, but I got used to it. I went to family days there and did activities. I like reading about sport, especially football and boxing. I support Liverpool, and my favourite boxer is Anthony Joshua. The last book I read was about Muhammed Ali, and I dressed up as him for World Book Day.
Sulaiman
I like to read manga, especially Naruto. Art is my favourite subject at school, and at home I like to draw manga characters. I used some of the art materials at the Library to make a dragon, and a mask, which I really enjoyed. And there was an activity where we had to find stuff in the Library. I made posters at the Library to get people to visit. I wrote, ‘Lose your mind in a book.’
As told to Lucy Peters